I've accepted that my husband and I will never have children of our own. It's out of our control, things happened long ago, we're done worrying about it. We've talked adoption and are in the process of saving up for adoption fees.
Those closest to us are understanding, accept that what we're doing is what's best for us, and have offered nothing but love and support.
Our own parents have not been so supportive. Almost every week it's some passive-aggressive remark about how lovely it would be to have grandchildren around. When I mentioned adoption, the outcries of "I don't want someone ELSE'S grandchildren, I want MY grandchildren!" were enough to send me home in tears.
Every week I get some article in my inbox about the latest scientific breakthroughs in fertility technology (we're both against IVF and artificial methods in general) and guilt trips about how selfish we're being.
I'm sick of it. It's not just angering, it's heartbreaking.
Monday, August 29, 2011
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
Six years ago
In Iran, two teenage boys were publicly hanged.
Their 'crime'? Being homosexuals.
There are forces in this country who would like nothing more than to bring the same punishment down on GLBTQ persons. I shouldn't feel terror at this minority, and yet...this country could go either way and intolerance still abounds.
Their 'crime'? Being homosexuals.
There are forces in this country who would like nothing more than to bring the same punishment down on GLBTQ persons. I shouldn't feel terror at this minority, and yet...this country could go either way and intolerance still abounds.
Monday, June 27, 2011
At 13, she was ruined
http://www.dailykos.com/story/2011/06/26/988771/-At-13,-She-Was-Ruined
I agreed with this article until they brought abortion into the picture (yeah, I know, big shock huh?).
I won't claim to know about Appalachian life or subculture. I'm pretty sheltered in my liberal city/suburban lifestyle and perhaps it's better that I am. I can't fathom of a world where teenage girls are routinely married off to men twice their age or more--and yes, I realize it's a common occurrence in many parts of the world even to this day.
A 13 year old is a child. A 30-something man is an adult. This *should* be red flag #1.
Said child is pregnant by 14 and increasingly isolated from her friends and schoolmates by both the adult man and the subculture around her. She herself is the child of a single mother, so the adult male marries her. She should be *thrilled*, right? After all, he's doing the "right thing" (never mind that the real "right thing" would have been to leave her alone in the first place).
Her husband ignored her requests for help when stated she wasn't feeling well (what would HE know of teenage pregnancy, I wonder), until it was too late and he came home to find her unconscious on the floor, severely brain-damaged from a stroke. The baby didn't make it.
No one blamed her husband for anything. Not even neglect, since now this poor girl would be brain damaged for life and never able to care for herself.
From the article: It's doubtful that she was ever given the option of having an abortion, or giving the baby up for adoption, or even raising the child on her own.
Abortion is not the answer. Proper healthcare (which I doubt this girl ever received) would have saved both her and her baby.
I agreed with this article until they brought abortion into the picture (yeah, I know, big shock huh?).
I won't claim to know about Appalachian life or subculture. I'm pretty sheltered in my liberal city/suburban lifestyle and perhaps it's better that I am. I can't fathom of a world where teenage girls are routinely married off to men twice their age or more--and yes, I realize it's a common occurrence in many parts of the world even to this day.
A 13 year old is a child. A 30-something man is an adult. This *should* be red flag #1.
Said child is pregnant by 14 and increasingly isolated from her friends and schoolmates by both the adult man and the subculture around her. She herself is the child of a single mother, so the adult male marries her. She should be *thrilled*, right? After all, he's doing the "right thing" (never mind that the real "right thing" would have been to leave her alone in the first place).
Her husband ignored her requests for help when stated she wasn't feeling well (what would HE know of teenage pregnancy, I wonder), until it was too late and he came home to find her unconscious on the floor, severely brain-damaged from a stroke. The baby didn't make it.
No one blamed her husband for anything. Not even neglect, since now this poor girl would be brain damaged for life and never able to care for herself.
From the article: It's doubtful that she was ever given the option of having an abortion, or giving the baby up for adoption, or even raising the child on her own.
Abortion is not the answer. Proper healthcare (which I doubt this girl ever received) would have saved both her and her baby.
Monday, June 20, 2011
The chilling after effects of sex-selective abortion
Unnatural Selection.
I want to read this book. Framed in this light, I can't help but find myself wondering how any feminist could support abortion.
Why does the reason matter?
I want to read this book. Framed in this light, I can't help but find myself wondering how any feminist could support abortion.
Why does the reason matter?
Saturday, June 11, 2011
Sunday, May 8, 2011
I don't normally support religious organizations, but I'm thrilled to discover His Nesting Place. A religious home for pregnant women that is unabashedly pro-life, supporting women even AFTER they've had their child.
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
21 week preemie now a healthy 7 pounds, will likely have no health problems.
What a medical miracle! And to think that so many people would still say it's okay to kill a child that far along...
What a medical miracle! And to think that so many people would still say it's okay to kill a child that far along...
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